Continuation of the outline of the book: The Celibacy Myth: Loving for Life; Charles A.Callagher and Thomas L. Vandenberg. St Paul Publications. England. 1987
Chapter 2: Matrimony and Celibacy: Adversaries or Allies?
Celibacy, according to the New Testament, is for the Church, for furthering the Kingdom of God. Marriage, too, is for the Church, for furthering the Kingdom.
Celibacy is not a private affair between oneself and God; neither, is marriage. Both are to enrich the Church.
“When a priest it totally taken with his people, absorbed in them, then celibacy becomes ‘of course’ instead of ‘I have to’.”
In this way celibacy is no different from faithful marriage. A faithful man promises commitment to one woman and that ‘narrowness’ enhances that one relationship.
It seems that the higher marriage is upheld, the more too is celibacy – and visa-versa. Both marriage and celibacy are a calling, a sacrament. To uphold the sacredness of one is to uphold the sacredness of the other.
“Matrimony and celibacy are church experiences; they are complementary life styles meant for each other.”
Celibates need a relationship, friendship, with happily married couples – not just with ones who need their advice because they have problems.
Of both celibacy and marriage: “Together, they are reeling from the shock waves of a society that has turned its back from the very notion of commitment itself.” Where marriage fails, so will celibacy and visa versa.
To be continued.